Mum’s brave letter to woman who tried to steal husband – while she was pregnant

A woman has shared an emotional open letter to the woman who had an affair with her husband while she was preparing to have his child

In a marriage, or really any relationship, one of the most important things to have is trust.

As they say, if you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything.

So what do you do when that trust is shaken by an affair?

One woman has recently opened up about just how heartbreaking and painful it is to experience this, in an open letter she wrote to the woman her husband had an affair with.

And her emotional words might just bring a tear to your eye – or inspire you.

Published on medium.com the unnamed woman begins by revealing that when she wakes up everyday, she feels at peace.

But after a few moments, this feeling is shattered and replaced by the memory of what her husband and the woman did.

She writes: “I remember the feeling when I saw the first suspect text message between you and him.

“I resisted every temptation to confront you both, threw as much love as I could at the situation and focused on the future.

And we got on with our lives together.”

The woman recounts how she and her husband bought a house and then decided to have a baby.

But after they conceived things took a turn.

“You started showing up at his classes again,” she says. “Messaging and calling and offering him that special brand of attention a man falls for when he needs validation.

The kind of attention a woman who has absolutely no stake in the game, no responsibilities with this man, no life to organise, or kids to parent, or bills to pay can give.”

She continues: “I remember the feeling when I knew you had crept back in. The hidden messages on his phone.

When he called you, drunk, at 3am, because he was obviously trying to spend the night with you.

“I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time.”

The woman goes on to describe her heartbreak at discovering the other girl had been in her home, how she found messages from her husband detailing their sexual encounters, telling her he missed her – when she had just given birth to his child.

“You have no way of understanding this now,” she says. “But growing and carrying human life is the most amazing and most vulnerable time of a woman’s life.

“To know that you continued to sink your teeth into my husband and my marriage when I was pregnant with our first child together makes me sick to my stomach.”

Despite her grief at the sordid affair, the woman goes on to reveal that her marriage is now stronger than ever.

She claims that the other girl chose “the wrong wife to compete with” and that she “didn’t stand a chance”.

But that doesn’t mean she won’t always remember the pain.

“It’s a daily battle,” she admits. “I am truly broken by what you’ve done. I don’t think that you care about that now. But one day, when you find the love you’re looking for and fall pregnant, I want my pain to be etched on to your brain.”

She adds: “Every day I remember. And, as hard as you will try to rationalise your choices, I hope you never forget.”