Disgruntled dad moans he didn’t get enough attention on labour ward as wife gave birth

A DAD-TO-BE sparked online outrage after moaning he wasn’t given a cup of tea while waiting for his wife to give birth.

The unnamed man complained he felt “invisible” as he waited in a hospital labour ward for 12 hours and wasn’t offered a drink.

As his partner suffered the agonies of child birth he whined about “feeling a bit uninvolved”.

But the disgruntled dad was hit with a backlash after posting his gripe on fathers’ website Dadsnet.

The anonymous bloke wrote: “Hi dads. Currently having a new-born in hospital, waiting for his arrival.

“Just hit me that dads on labour wards seem to be invisible.


“Sat yesterday for 12 hours never offered a drink or anything I felt invisible. It was a disgrace and made me feel quite mad.

“All the tax and national insurance I pay and not even a courtesy of a teabag now and then or even just like I had a right to be there supporting my missus and waiting for our miracle.

Have any of you experienced same treatment??”

This experience should never be about you. If I want a tea, I get it for myself. I hope this child matures you
A Dad
Other Dads rounded on the expectant father, with one branding him “selfish” and “narcissistic”.

Some stuck up for the NHS and accused him of being immature.

One man wrote: “Two things toolbelt. One: This experience should never be about you.

Two: If you were there for the missus… ACTIVELY there for the missus, you wouldn’t ‘feel invisible’ you’d be too concerned with her to care.”


He added: “If I want a tea, I get it for myself. I ask the patient if they want something. It’s obvious you’re somewhat of a selfish jerk.

“Because you take a time when your wife is in great pain, she’s scared, she’s anxious, she’s pushing a human out of her body… and you make a point to draw attention to how you were deprived of attention.

“I hope this child matures you.”

Fellow Dadsnet user, Craig Britzman, told him to fetch a cuppa himself.


He wrote: “Personally I dropped the ego and was there for my wife and child doing whatever little jobs I could to help.

“I have nothing but the utmost respect and gratitude towards the undermanned NHS staff who day in day out help parents through childbirth.”

Mark HB wondered if the dad-to-be’s online moan was a “joke post”.

He fumed: “My wife went through a 72-hour labour ending in an emergency C section for our first and we spent 9 hours waiting for a C section for our second.

At no point in that 81 hours did I want someone to make me a cup of tea. Should have packed snacks and drinks in your hospital bag.”

Sammy Filan raged at the man for behaving “like a member of a lower class of human beings” before launching an expletive-laden broadside.

He said: “I’m not surprised that you kept this post anonymous, unprecedented levels of selfishness. Seriously, I’ve never seen anything like it.

“I genuinely hope that your son grows to be a kind, thoughtful, selfless human being, by actively trying to be the opposite of his useless, xxxx xxxx of a father.”

But others were a bit more sympathetic.

Dominic Hayhoe said: “I think it can feel like this, although obviously the mother is the most important person of course.”

And James Cluck posted: “I agree, it wouldn’t take much to acknowledge that this is a very special and important moment in your life too